So, I feel like I'm kind of jumping right back in here...
like I haven't been away forever.
And it's not that I don't want to fill in the blanks...it's just that I'm not sure I can...or I'm not sure I need to...or perhaps some combination of the two.
Today, I thought perhaps I'd just tell you what I was thinking about this afternoon and maybe we could just go from there...
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We were heading out on a weekend road trip a few weeks back and we stopped, like we usually do, at the gas station on the way out to fill up with gas, check the tire pressure and pick up the coffees we're too disorganized to make at home before we leave. And as we're pulling out of the station, my husband says to me, "The tires on the passenger side were really low. You should make a point of checking them more often." Which I think must be code for...AT ALL... knowing full well he knows exactly how often I check the tire pressure:: read NEVER.
Still, I make a mental note to add that to the list of "Things To Do Once My Life is Running MUCH More Smoothly".. as it stands it's pretty near the bottom of the list. Now don't get me wrong, it's not that I don't think tire pressure is important. I understand the weight in my tires is very important to the optimum functioning of my vehicle, it's just not something I think about...not weekly or even monthly...just not EVER. Anyway...we continue for a short distance in silence. Me, contemplating the ever-growing list of things on my priority list and where exactly *occasionally check tire pressure* might fit in and him, contemplating I'm sure his next question...
"Can you tell, when they're really low?" he asks. "Like the whole car pulls to one side...can you not feel that when you're driving?"
And I pause for a moment, a mother who spends 90% of her time driving about with children who are either talking, singing or arguing simultaneously while en route to a class or an appointment or an event that we are most definitely running behind for and I look across at him, and I say..."No. No, I don't feel that." And even as the words come tumbling out of my mouth and I realize that I'm not about to instill much confidence in my ability to drive a motor vehicle that carries all he holds most dear, I add... "To be perfectly honest honey, and this might not be something you really want to know, but when I'm driving I just try to keep the car moving in the right direction...in between the lines, preferably of my own lane...at a speed that seems consistent with those around me...and I try not to hit anything. Moving or otherwise."
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Our conversation continued for a short while after that...but that's the part I was thinking about this afternoon when I realized that the way I drive is pretty much the way I've been living my life lately. I'm just focusing my energies on moving forward, trying hard to stay the course, keep pace and avoid any major calamities.
13 comments:
sending you love ... and a hope that the summer finds you skipping down that road and dancing over the bumps, xo
haha. i'm so happy to have you back! i looked at my hub's tires the other day and said, *they look low to me!* he calmly looked behind me at MY cars tires and said, "um, ditto"
that's how i've been living my life lately (slap my wrist) seeing the neglect in someone else's life instead of taking care of the things i'm neglecting in my own.
touche!
the things you learn from a tire discussion with your husband.
(((hugs))) dear friend
i check the tires incessantly, only because there was one summer that i had 3 flats in less than 2 months. it's my obsession.
but the time thing...yeah, my life is flying by except i think it's following the crooked path that your girl is walking in this photo.
i just can't seem to catch it all. xo
Funny that you should mention tires. Two months ago I traded my jeep in for a smaller car. The tires seem so small compared to my other car that I keep thinking that they are running out of air!
Tires are not something I spend a lot of time thinking about either.
It's nice to see you :)
you and i drive exactly the
same way ~
as i recently discovered when
I got a flat tire and kept driving
and then was told it couldn't be patched up because i drove on
a flat tire and didn't i know
that was a "NO NO?"
um....no....
Hello beautiful you!I think I truly understand where you are right now...the driving and life... :)I'm guessing you probably have a million thoughts and ideas about what you want to do...dreams...aspirations...trying to figure out how to bring them to life? I honestly think this happens when we find ourselves consumed with being moms, and can't seem to find time for what we need...
I'm sending you much love...and hoping that you get a little time for you...
xoxo
Yes, and then I'll say what I think in circumstances like this but maybe you don't: "Honey, if it's so g-d obvious to you that the g-d tires are low and I don't have the g-d time to do a g-d thing about it, why don't you take care of the g-d tires?"
I think you're moving along quite nicely.
I just found your blog and I love it !!!
Obviously I don't know you at all, right ? But we women need to stick together, so if I did know you, this is what would be coming out of my mouth.....
I can't believe you didn't throw something at your husband when he said that to Philyou !
I would have given him the silent treatment and then tried to figure out what he really meant by what he said....a husband who tells his wife to keep an eye on the tires doesn't mean that....granted, he means something, but it's not about the tires !!
This of course is all coming from me watching too many episodes of Dr. Phil...but you know what, he's usually right !!!
It think you deserve a hug !!
I've struggled a little with the interpretation of this post and whether or not to rewrite it or delete it entirely. Tonight, I went in and made a few edits that I don't believe alter the overall message of the piece, so much as the tone in which I may have conveyed it. Still, I think it's important to acknowledge that from this point on, you are reading an edited version of the original.
Moving forward...
Hi Sweets,
I missed the original version...but loved this one! Heehee...wish I could have sit next to you with a coffee and giggled together!
Where in our life will we ever think of air in the tires! It's all been going quite smoothly so far?! :-)
Until we get the flat tire...(which I did...and drove home because I"m not changing the tyre)...and then, can you believe it...i still forget to check the tyres!
giggles....i can just see you looking at your hubbie...don't you just adore him! ?
I love you! It's actually quite funny...to think that they think we would actually 'think' about putting air in the tyres. Where do they come from?!
Big hugs, and an extra one for YOU! xx
PS: still giggling!!! :-)
I just found your blog, compliments of a lovely mermaid lady we both adore and how blessed and amazed and honored am I? Breath of fresh you are my dear. It's like I can take my shoes off here and run through the daisies. Lovely is an understatement. Fierce is more like it. ♥
Oh sweet Kirsten! I wish that I could convey to you in words just how much I understand this. My husband and I could have had the exact same conversation and I too would have interpreted it all to somehow reflect the way in which my life is unfolding...but I probably would have included some sharp looks his way while processing it.
When are we going to have that chat dear friend. I think it is much needed. I was trying to illustrate this kind of living in a post I wrote today but you have summed it up quite perfectly here.
Your post made me laugh :o) I think that's a good way to go through life! You've got to keep focused on moving forward... Forward - that's my direction!
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